My name is Michelle and I’m a surrogate partner, intimacy coach and human connection coach based in the Baltimore area, serving the Mid-Atlantic and happy to travel coast to coast for intensive sessions. (I am not a sex therapist) I’m guessing you’ve recently heard of Surrogate Partner Therapy, also commonly called Sex Surrogacy, and you’ve hit the interwebs to see what you can learn. Congratulations on taking the next step in your personal journey. I’m really excited for you!
Surrogate Partner Therapy is for clients that are seeing a therapist and need support around areas like:
PE (Premature Ejaculation)
ED (Erectile Disfunction)
difficulty reaching orgasm
I look forward to hearing from you!
P.S. Are you looking for intimacy coaching and you don’t have a therapist? I invite you to fill out the contact form. We can explore your options.
What is Surrogate Partner Therapy?
A surrogate partner, also commonly called a sex surrogate, is a trained professional who works with clients in sex therapy as part of a three-way team in conjunction with an accredited or licensed therapist. The surrogate is a nurturing partner to the client, helping them build skills in the areas of physical and emotional intimacy achieved through experiences involving communication, relaxation, sensual and sexual touching, and social skills training.
Sessions with the therapist are interwoven with the surrogate/client sessions, and “an open, honest, consistent communication among all participants is a fundamental ingredient of successful surrogate partner therapy” as stated by IPSA, the International Professional Surrogates Association. The surrogate and therapist collaborate jointly to move the client forward effectively toward reaching their personal goals.
While there are some typical exercises and milestones across most surrogacy, each practitioner will have their own style. Since all clients are unique, the process can be very unique too.
Surrogate partners work with a wide variety of clients, each practitioner setting their own parameters. While most of my clients are cis men, I am comfortable and confident working with the complete gender spectrum.
How did I become a surrogate partner? Great question! When my marriage of 18 years ended in the spring of 2014, I wondered what I would grow up to be. That’s about the same time I found a sex educator named Betty Dodson. After attending Betty’s workshop BodySex, I knew I wanted to work in hands-on sex education.
Looking for opportunities to educate my community, I trained with Cuddlist to be a professional cuddler, a very new industry, at the very beginning of their launch in December 2015. Professional cuddling, aka Cuddle Therapy, was actually a great way to get into hands-on sex education. I was teaching my clients the building blocks to a quality sex life – communication, consent, and boundaries.
I had a curiosity around Surrogate Partner work since seeing the movie The Sessions in the summer of 2014. Living in Michigan, though, didn’t give her much of an opportunity to explore the field. Local therapists weren’t using the services of surrogates. BUT… then I moved to San Diego, California and began Surrogate Partner Therapy training with the Institute for Mind Body Therapy…
In late 2019 I relocated to the Baltimore area and began working with therapists in the Mid-Atlantic region, including Maryland, Washington, DC, Virginia, and Pennsylvania. My clients travel from as far as New York and I’ve even traveled back to California to work with clients. Location doesn’t have to be a limiting factor. I love to travel!
In my private life, I’m a mother to two sons and a dog mom. I have a supportive partner and I contribute to multiple sex-positive, gender, sexuality, and relationship diverse communities. I come to this work with maturity and a history rich with experience. It sometimes feels like my entire life was to bring me to this work. I love what I do.
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Surrogate partner therapy, also known as sexual surrogacy, is the hands-on part of the sex therapy community. Being a bodyworker, I’m currently not seeing clients. The good news? Since many of us in the sex therapy community are hunkered down with COVID19, physically distancing, I have used my time to make some great connections within …