Welcome!

My name is Michelle and I’m a surrogate partner, intimacy coach and human connection coach based in both San Diego and the Baltimore/DC area, serving the Mid-Atlantic including being in Philadelphia monthly. I’m guessing you’ve recently heard of Surrogate Partner Therapy, also commonly called Sex Surrogacy, and you’ve hit the interwebs to see what you can learn. Congratulations on taking the next step in your personal journey. I’m really excited for you!

Surrogate Partner Therapy is for clients that are seeing a therapist and need support around areas like:

  • late virginity
  • PE (Premature Ejaculation)
  • ED (Erectile Disfunction)
  • difficulty reaching orgasm
  • body image
  • relationship skills

I look forward to hearing from you!

Warm hugs,

Michelle Renee, Surrogate Partner based in Baltimore, Maryland, serving Maryland, Washington, DC, Pennsylvania, Virginia - the Mid-Atlantic.

P.S. Are you looking for intimacy coaching and you don’t have a therapist? I invite you to schedule an exploration call where we can explore your options.

What is Surrogate Partner Therapy?

A surrogate partner, sometimes called a sex surrogate, is a trained professional who works with clients in therapy as part of a three-way team in conjunction with an accredited or licensed therapist or clinician. The surrogate is a nurturing partner to the client, helping them build skills in the areas of physical and emotional intimacy achieved through experiences involving communication, relaxation, sensual and sexual touching, and social skills training.

Sessions with the therapist are interwoven with the surrogate/client sessions, and “an open, honest, consistent communication among all participants is a fundamental ingredient of successful surrogate partner therapy” as stated by IPSA, the International Professional Surrogates Association. The surrogate and therapist collaborate jointly to move the client forward effectively toward reaching their personal goals.

While there are some typical exercises and milestones across most surrogacy, each practitioner will have their own style. Since all clients are unique, the process can be very unique too.

Surrogate partners work with a wide variety of clients, each practitioner setting their own parameters. While most of my clients are cis men, I am comfortable and confident working with the complete gender spectrum.

For more information about Surrogate Partner Therapy, please visit SurrogatePartnerCollective.org.

Interested in possibly working together? Let’s connect!

Mission Statement

There are many ways Surrogate Partners practice Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT). For myself:

• I see SPT as a modality most effective when the client is well established with a mental health professional and continues after our work is completed for as long as needed to process the completion of our work together.  

• I value the attachment nurtured between the surrogate partner (SP) and the client as part of the healing modality.  This is why I feel a mental health professional is essential in the triadic model. The clinician positioned outside of the relationship allows reframing and generalization of feelings that occur within the client-SP relationship.  This objective view is, at times, impossible for me, as the surrogate, to communicate and is essential for client growth.  

• I approach the work as both a trained practitioner and as a vulnerable human being who has authentic feelings and responses when relating to another.  That authentic connection is also part of the healing modality.  

• I’m committed to engaging with my clients from a place of boundaried compassion.  

• Outside of this therapeutic and triadic model, I offer other modalities of work with clients, such as cuddling and intimacy coaching, in a much more limited container.  That work is not SPT, has different goals than SPT, and is not a substitute for SPT.  These other options are an offering of different modalities for individuals with different needs. 

"Michelle is one of the most 
compassionate and thoughtful human 
beings on this planet. Not only that but Michelle 
is extremely, and I mean extremely, dedicated to 
her work. She is constantly doing more to expand the 
field, serve her community, open doors for clients and clinicians. Michelle lobbied me to do a course on Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT) which was tremendously helpful in our clinical work together. She is consistently learning more about different therapeutic techniques and interventions. She even bought and read a dense trauma book made for clinicians to understand more about exposure therapy. Working with Michelle has truly opened my eyes to the immense power and healing of SPT. I am grateful that 
she was my first experience working with a 
surrogate partner and I know this relationship 
will go on for the rest of our careers." 
Vanessa Cushing, MS, NCC

The Next Step – Let’s Connect

Thank you for your interest in working together.  Let’s see where we are both a yes!

Note, there is a $40 fee to book this call.  It will be held as an ongoing deposit or applied to your first session.  It will act as a no-show fee if you fail to make a session in the future, including this exploration call.  

If after this meeting either of us decides not to work together, this fee will be refunded. Please send notice within 30 days.

If you are a clinician looking to collaborate, please reach out at michelle@humanconnectionocoach.com.

Meet Michelle Renee

How did I become a surrogate partner? Great question! When my marriage of 18 years ended in the spring of 2014, I wondered what I would grow up to be. That’s about the same time I found a sex educator named Betty Dodson. After attending Betty’s workshop BodySex, I knew I wanted to work in hands-on sex education.

Michelle with Betty Dodson at the end of day 2 of BodySex in November 2014.

Looking for opportunities to educate my community, I trained with Cuddlist to be a professional cuddler, a very new industry, at the very beginning of their launch in December 2015. Professional cuddling, aka Cuddle Therapy, was actually a great way to get into hands-on sex education. I was teaching my clients the building blocks to a quality sex life – communication, consent, and boundaries.

I had a curiosity around Surrogate Partner work since seeing the movie The Sessions in the summer of 2014. Living in Michigan, though, didn’t give her much of an opportunity to explore the field. Local therapists weren’t using the services of surrogates. BUT… then I moved to San Diego, California and began Surrogate Partner Therapy training with Integrative Mind Body Therapies

I’m currently sharing my time every month between San Diego, Baltimore/DC and Philadelphia.

In my private life, I’m a mother to two sons and a dog mom. I have a supportive partner and I contribute to multiple sex-positive, gender, sexuality, and relationship diverse communities. I come to this work with maturity and a history rich with experience. It sometimes feels like my entire life was to bring me to this work. I love what I do.

Ready to schedule a consultation and learn more? Click here.

Mental Health First Aid, Institute for Mind Body Therapy, Kink Aware Professional, Cuddlist Professional Cuddle Therapy

Certifications and Trainings:

Like A Pro – The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners (2021)

Rethinking the Erotic: Creating Therapeutic Environments that Center Ace and Aro Experiences (2021)

Neuro Somatic Processing Training (2021)

Working in the Expanded Triadic Model – Surrogate Partner Therapy (Integrative Mind Body Therapies 2019)

Mental Health First Aid (2019)

Advanced Cuddlist Training (2018)

Deep Listening with Kassandra Brown (2018)

Foundations of Facilitation (2016 and again in 2018)

Certified Cuddle Party Facilitator (2016)

Cuddlist Certified Touch Practitioner (2015)